The cat is still peeing in our laundry, so I am buying lidded hampers, a Feliway refill, new socks and underwear and t-shirts and towels, Nature’s Miracle, and two pairs of Etsy earrings. I am calling the earrings a “thank you for not euthanizing me” gift from Mouse to me.

And check out THIS development:

This is how Benchley sleeps: DRAPED.

I’d have more hope that this meant the end of the Pee Punishment, except that this picture was taken yesterday and she peed in our laundry this morning and then the cats had a big hissy spat. Plus, this might end up meaning my computer chair will be involved in a territory dispute and will need to be burned.

It is less than three weeks until my solo trip to see my brother and sister-in-law and niece and sister-in-law’s sister! And then it is only about a month after that until my brother and sister-in-law and niece move to a location an hour away from me! (We are still working on my sister-in-law’s sister.) The only downside of their move: I think it will look silly if I still bring my pink suitcase on visits to see them.

I was doing Postcrossing postcards last night and something fun happened. I had just finished a postcard and I got my next address—and the address seemed verrrrry familiar. It was to another person at the same address! I love when stuff like that happens. Once Paul and I both got the same person to send a card to. We realized it because he read aloud the person’s wish list and I recognized it as one I had seen a week or two before.

I don’t want to get all INTO IT here, because I know all of you with dishwashers already know all the problems with dishwashers. I just want to say that sometime soon I am going to have to point out to someone that “starting the dishwasher running” does not count toward doing one’s fair share of dishwasher duties.

All right, enough whining! It really does help to vent it into a blog post: writing it down lets me stop thinking about it so much. And notice both whiny posts were in the late afternoon / evening: I go through the whole day just feeling kind of bleh, and then it’s evening and I’m tired and there’s no dessert and the coughing is starting and it’s ACK DESPAIR TIME ACK!!

Next time I see the doctor I’m going to ask about the coughing asthma thing. It definitely gets worse when I lie down; I’ve been sleeping upright in the recliner the last few nights because if I lie down I wake myself up with the coughing. I once tried my mom’s rescue inhaler (er, I mean, JUST KIDDING, I WOULD NEVER BREAK A FEDERAL LAW BY USING MEDICATION PRESCRIBED FOR SOMEONE ELSE) and it didn’t help (IN MY IMAGINATION, WHICH IS THE ONLY PLACE I WOULD USE SOMEONE ELSE’S MEDICATION), but perhaps a different medication would help. And in the meantime I’m going to try the Zyrtec.

The stranger cat is probably out of the basement. We put the cat door on in/out mode so the cat could leave if it wanted to. My plan of posting Found Cat signs was not going to work: we couldn’t get a hold of the cat even if the owners called us. We will just have to hope that it is an owned-but-collarless cat and that it will find its way home, and that if it IS a stray it will find a family that doesn’t scare it half to death. We ARE kind of LOUD.

I agree with everyone who said the Pill is probably contributing to the moody despairingness. Problem: if I stop taking it, Paul will get Teh Snippage. Soon I will be ready for that, but not yet. I am hanging on to a tiny lingering hope that he will say, “Actually, now that the four oldest are in school, I guess we COULD handle another!” So. Stuck with the hormonal craziness element for now.

Okay, now I am going to go get another cup of coffee, and put on one of my pretty rings, and finish up today’s Milk and Cookies post which is going to be about earrings for 14-year-old girls so that means I get to look at more pretty jewelry and that should be cheering.

I am feeling all stressed by this post by Temerity Jane: You Don’t Know My Hypothetical Future Child. Should I Have It?“—because on one hand YES YES OH GOD YES, and on the other hand, last week there was a perfectly legitimate reason to give my 5th grader permission to cross a busy street with a friend without any grown-ups helping them, and I was so stressed out about it I started crying, and even though everything was fine and he got across the street and back again without being squashed, ever since then I’ve been continually stressed by the idea that THE CHILDREN’S LIVES ARE IN THEIR HANDS and, simultaneously, OUR HAPPINESS IS DEPENDENT ON THOSE LIVES, and, from that, WHY THE HELL DID WE HAVE CHILDREN WHEN ALL IT IS IS SUFFERING AND EXPENSE AND POTENTIAL DEATH-WISH-INSPIRING LOSS?? If one of my children died, I would EMBRACE MY OWN DEATH and I am not exaggerating even slightly. So what to advise someone considering children? It is the most wonderful thing that can ever happen, and it will make you consider scenarios in which you would embrace death? That doesn’t really fit on a “Congratulations on your pregnancy!” card.

Or maybe I am stressed because a cat that doesn’t belong to us is in our basement. We have the cat door set to “in only,” so that Benchley can always come into the house but can’t go out unless we let him out, or unless he darts sneakily past us as we open the front door. So anyway, an unknown cat came into the cat door and can’t get out, and it’s not wearing a collar so I feel responsible for its well-being, but it’s so scared of us it’s hiding in the basement and I can’t find it, and what if its owners are worried about it RIGHT NOW? Or what if it is a stray and it’s our next cat and all of this is part of The Story of How We Got Our Next Cat? And meanwhile Paul is saying, “Set the cat door to in/out, why don’t you,” and how can he find the situation so simple?

Or maybe the problem is that my headcold morphed into my annual Horrible Coughing Thing, where I cough and cough and cough and cough and cough and cough and cough and cough and cough and cough at 2:00 in the morning, and so I can’t get back to sleep even though I switch from the bed to the recliner to be more upright, and when I wake up at 5:30 I feel as if coffee might help but then it doesn’t really. And then I wonder if it could be asthma, but it doesn’t really fit the symptoms of asthma, and whenever I go to a doctor he’s all, “OH, well, a virus has to run its course, careless little dismissive laugh as if you’re being a hypochondriac about nothing!”

Well! A person might turn to Oreos in circumstances such as these! But a person is continuing to eat RAW SPINACH despite a lack of precipitous weight loss as a result of such righteousness, and so a person might feel VERY SORRY FOR HERSELF.

I have been so cranky! So terribly cranky! I am moping around feeling incompatible with the beautiful spring sunshine.

I am working on soothing it through the acquisition of material possessions. Look at my pretty rings!

What’s prettier, the rings or the clearance stickers? Two of them are “cocktail rings,” and six of them are for everyday glamor. (I think it should be spelled “glamour.” Why is spellchecker arguing with me? Does it WANT to pick a fight?) I am wearing a deep plum flower ring right now. I am waiting to feel better. I do feel a LITTLE better.

I am also a little tipsy, because when material possessions didn’t work I turned to liquor. I mean, obv: first step shopping, second step booze, that is the sequence of events. Still cranky, though. Still feeling as if the world is populated by difficult and unreasonable people who honk when you’re stopped at a crosswalk because they assume you’re an idiot who would stop in the middle of the road for no reason.

How can I be feeling TOTALLY OVERWHELMED by children and really VERY GLAD to see the caboose heading through the milestones—and also still longing for JUST ONE MORE? I had a dream that I was pregnant with another boy, and that he was due on my birthday but we’d waited until just 2 months before the birth to tell everyone. I woke up thinking of baby names. Oliver Frederick. Simon Pearce. Oliver Pearce. Simon Perry. Sigh. Sadness. No one to use the names on. Paul says we can use the names on cats, but that doesn’t satisfy at all.

Soon we’ll get a kitten. That will help briefly.

I’ve wanted to increase my exercise with this diet I’m on, but instead I’ve decreased. I’m down to two times a week. And when I do exercise I feel tired and angry, before and after. I wait for the satisfaction of having done it, and instead I feel worn out and unpleasantly sweaty and like a pawn of stupid social pressure.

I took a pregnancy test today, even, because I’ve been so tired and cranky and queasy. Negative. Okay, I just went to the trash and dug it out to make sure it was still negative. (Still negative.)

What else could explain the tiredness, the queasiness, the salt cravings, the UNIVERSAL MALAISE? Oh no, is it Pre-Menopause?? Surely not yet. And yet the fact of it looming on the horizon, the hot flashes and the boob squashing, the knowledge that babies through biological means are no longer an option—well. I don’t want to think of it. I want to flush the Pill and add to my exhaustion and stress. No I don’t. Yes I do. No I don’t. Yes I do.

Giving things away: not working. Exercise: not working. Eating better: not working. Taking time away from he computer: not working. Shopping: not working. Cuddling the children: not working. Counting blessings: not working. Being mad at everyone in the world: not working. If you suggest religion or yoga I swear I will scream right in your ear until the ringing is permanent.

I have new shoes! I have warm cats! I have a solo trip to see my niece coming up in a month! I have eight pounds of chocolate-covered dried cherries! I have nothing to be sad about except what looms theoretically in my future! Yes, well, I told that to my psyche and it threw a vase at my head.

It is time to hand out Earth Day presents, and perhaps if we do this again next year I should start the giveaway several days BEFORE Earth Day, to make the presents feel more festive? Because it feels like Earth Day is over, which it is, and that it is too late for Earth Day presents. Well! Next time!

Anyway! Winners!

jen(melty) – cloth napkins

Jen of Daily Dose of Devan – cloth napkins

Laura (April 22, 8:17 a.m. comment) – cloth napkins

marilyn c. cole – reusable pads

Annika – reusable pads

Sam – reusable pads

Mama Bub – reusable bags

Jenni of Oscarelli – reusable bags

So! Now we begin the snowstorm of emails with addresses, and then little packages winging their ways to the one corner of the earth! Email me at swistle at gmaildotcom with your shipping info and we’ll get this show on the road!

And thank you for all your good ideas on that post! I really enjoyed reading about some of the things you’re doing, and I found myself this week reaching into the paper recycling bin when I needed to jot a note or print a draft or figure out who won what in an Earth Day giveaway.

Exactly one month ago today, I spent several minutes searching online to find out when Earth Day was, because I miss it EVERY YEAR. Then, as I was writing it on my calendar, I noticed it was pre-printed on my calendar. Genius.

There are a lot of things I do wr—….well, let’s not use a harsh word like “wrong.” Let’s say instead that there are many situations in which I make choices that would not be at the TIPPY TIPPY TOP of the Environmental Awesomeness List. I occasionally use bleach. I don’t make any particular effort to eat local foods. We have central air conditioning. I drive to Target whenever I feel like it, even though our Targets are 15-35 minutes away. I eat meat, including fast food meat. I buy more stuff than I need.

I have three small areas in which I have made what I think of as Good Environmental Changes: handkerchiefs instead of paper tissues, cloth napkins instead of paper napkins, and reusable pads instead of disposable pads. There are ALWAYS alternatives that are EVEN BETTER (making my own pads out of worn-out clothes, for example, or using clumps of leaves I then compost for the garden), but these are pretty good choices.

In none of these areas am I a zealot: after all, I use paper towels to clean the bathroom because the idea of using a washcloth squicks me out, so I’d be a fine one to start sniffing critically at someone’s box of Puffs Plus. (Plus, we ALSO have a box of Puffs at our house: I wouldn’t hand a guest a handkerchief.) Besides, once I started using these three cloth things, I found I PREFERRED them to the disposable versions, so this makes it difficult to claim Praiseworthy Sacrifice.

NEVERTHELESS. While I am not a zealot, I would call myself an evangelist: I’ve been so happy with these three changes, and so pleasantly surprised by my resulting preference, that I feel like SPREADING THE WORD. I’m willing to put my own money behind it, even.

And so my small contribution to Earth Day is this: eight little packets of earth-lovin’ goodness.

Three packets will contain cloth napkins, nine assorted napkins in each packet.

Two packets will contain four reusable shopping bags each, standing in for cloth handkerchiefs because I searched in several stores and all I could find was patterned bandannas, and then I happened to see a clearance rack of nice reusable cloth shopping bags at Old Navy so I decided to do that instead. Three of the bags in each set are 100% cotton, 15x14x4ish. One of the bags in each set is polypropylene, 12x9x4ish.

Three packets will contain reusable pads: one regular pad, one long pantiliner, and one pantiliner in each set, from my favorite reusable pad source Sugar Monkies (who, by the way, gave me 50% off my order when she heard it was for Earth Day).

I had fun choosing the pads. Here are the three fabrics I chose:

Sharks, POW!, and Owls

I’m going to mix the patterns in each set of pads, so each set will contain one pad of each fabric.

To enter, leave a comment on this post. You can enter to win just one or just two of the types of packets if you want (like, if you already use cloth napkins you can enter just for the bags and the pads)—just specify in your comment which you’d like to try to win. If you don’t specify, I’ll assume you want to be entered for all three types. U.S./APO/FPO and Canada mailing addresses only. I’ll choose the winners on Sunday, April 25th.

Happy Earth Day!

Edited to add: Also check out Cayt’s reusable pad giveaway!

I am having a Bad Brain Day: I am pretty sure it’s not the case that the entire world and everything in it is crappy, but kind of FEELS like maybe it IS the case. We went to Target this morning for an emergency therapy session, and I’m sure you’ll understand the severity of the issue when I tell you that EVEN THAT didn’t work.

We also went to The Children’s Place and I found a bunch of good stuff on good markdowns, but solve THIS riddle: the Big Girl, Little Girl, and Little Boy section all had a $5.99 jeans sale, but the Big Boy section did not. I even asked about it, and they acted like it wasn’t even slightly strange that a store-wide jeans sale would include three of their four departments but not the fourth. They suggested I look on the skimpy rack of pre-ripped big-boy jeans marked down to $19.99, as if that were similar. Since THREE of my boys wear jeans in the Big Boy sizes, this was a little IRRITATING and contributed to the “everything in the world is crappy” feeling.

Have I mentioned we just found out our cat Mouse has hyperthyroid? and also kidney disease? and that we won’t know how bad the kidney disease is until we treat the hyperthyroid, because hyperthyroid makes kidney disease look less severe than it is? and when we treat the kidney disease, we may find it worsens her possible congestive heart issue? Yes. Well. And so we are entering this territory of “How much should be done for a 16-year-old cat?” We’re starting with daily medication and special food and possibly a CAT DRINKING FOUNTAIN, plus of course the repeated follow-up tests to see what is working, and it is so very very hard to know when to say, “Let’s use these resources to feed and clothe several families in another country instead.”

Last night I put Elizabeth’s hair in braids for the first time.

She really likes the braids, which was unexpected because she fights me when I put her hair in ponytails. She calls the braids “locks” because of a Rapunzel story where the guy tells Rapunzel to “throw down her locks” and Rapunzel throws down long braids. Last night she wanted to sleep in her locks, and this morning we put in fresh ones.

We have a vinyl cover made by my mom for our coffee table, and it is so great because we do all kinds of crafts and snackings on that table. However, after seven-ish years, the vinyl has many rips and cuts on it, plus some permanent metallic gold paint smudges. It also has one big rip because a certain two-year-old grabbed a small rip and pulled. Paul fixed the rips yesterday with duct tape, and while that’s a very SENSIBLE solution, it is not exactly PRETTY. So I got myself a roll of THIS:

Because duct tape in TEAL—why, that’s a completely different story! I plan to cover the entire vinyl table-cover with it.

O small spider!
I am sorry:
Intellectually I know
You pose no threat
To me or to any of
The vulnerable small ones in my care.
You should be adored
For your pest-controlling properties,
As we adore the admittedly-cuter ladybug.

But.

When you dangle down
On a long string,
Right in front of my face
As I am making breakfast,
Frankly you are lucky to get out of this situation
Unsmashed.
Really, tossed outside intact,
In a hastily-grabbed napkin,
Is an exceedingly lucky fate,
You eight-legged horror.

You know what is SUPER AWESOME for a new diet? Food poisoning! Yes! I highly recommend it! Because you will feel full/queasy all Thursday afternoon/evening, and then you will start barfing Thursday night, which, not to be gross but it will take care of any Doritos Indiscretion you may have recently succumbed to. And then you will eat nothing at all on Friday, and on Saturday you will be like a tiny weak kitten, barely managing a banana for breakfast! Not that kittens eat bananas, but you understand this analogy stretches only so far. Like, half a sentence to be precise.

But here is the problem: Your significant other, after doing a memorably fantastic and praiseworthy job coming home early from work on Friday unasked, and handling EVERYTHING while you doze queasily in a recliner, will feel entitled to his/her OWN day of rest, and will spend the day “sick” with an imperceptible Man Cold in the recliner, watching movies while YOU, barely recovered and still somewhat weak, run yourself ragged handling everything, while he/she (but let’s face it, I think we are mostly talking about HE) keeps calling out instructions right before you do things on your own, in a manner uncannily reminiscent of your late mother-in-law! Until you finally have to say to him, “Being sick and leaving me to handle everything? Fine. Bossing me from your recliner? NOT FINE.” And then he acts HURT, FTLOG. And meanwhile you are fading fast because you are still not completely up to par.

But do you know what? You probably lost a pound! or maybe two, if you count water weight! And as we all know from fashion magazines, there is NO MISERY that outweighs a reduction in your GD WEIGHT!! Because excess body weight is EVERYTHING THAT IS WRONG WITH THIS COUNTRY!!!!

Also! As a general note! If a person is too sick to do the regular work of child/household maintenance during the day, he/she is too sick to suddenly start messing around on the computer at night! THIS SHOULD BE AN OBVIOUS FACT. Seven o’clock is not The Magical Hour of Recovery!

And also! If you are thinking of telling me how lucky I should feel that my husband is sick and bossing me from a recliner rather than DEAD or CHEATING, I suggest you RETHINK IT. Because I am pretty sure I can still muster up the energy to BARF DOWN YOUR SHIRT!

I took Mouse to the vet today for her annual check-up, and I talked with the vet about how unhappy Mouse has been with Benchley’s persistent attentions: Benchley wants to PLAY! and CUDDLE! and Mouse wants to be LEFT ALONE! and I feel like we ruined her entire old age by getting this dim cat who won’t take a hint, and meanwhile she’s started using the laundry pile as a litter box and that is not going to work for us.

Anyway, get this: the vet told me about Feliway (cat Prozac in air-freshener-diffuser form, which some of you had mentioned too), and said we could put a collar-keyed cat door in an interior door so only Mouse could go to a certain room, and she also said we could put a litter box in those rooms for Mouse—-or, she said, we could GET ANOTHER CAT. AHA HA HA HA HA!! Apparently, although this can backfire (leaving poor Mouse fighting off the affection of TWO cats), it’s QUITE LIKELY to succeed in cases where one cat wants a friend and the other one doesn’t (as opposed to situations where the cats hate each other).

I can’t WAIT to tell Paul!

I did buy the Feliway, too, because Mouse has one favorite spot (on a computer CPU) and there’s an outlet right next to it so the plug-in Cat Happiness might be perfect. And I’m glad I didn’t buy the diffuser at the vet’s office where it was $45, when it is $19 on Amazon. I do truly love Amazon.

Leave me. the frick. ALONE.