I am due September 5th with our first child. We are having a boy, and we are completely stumped on a name!
Some names we like are Luca, Sebastian, and Milan. My husband has suggested Luca Dean (which I like, but fear that it sounds too similar to Dean and Deluca). He also likes Sebastian Cruz, which I like but I’m not sure if it’s too much?? We can’t think of anything that goes with Milan, any suggestions? I haven’t been able to settle on a name because I feel like I’m missing something, or that I’m close to what I’m looking for but just not there yet….
Surname sounds like Ver-bell.
Some names we had on our list Rylan, Jaylen, Desmin, Royce and Remy.
I would most appreciate any and all feedback on what we have, as well as warmly welcome suggestions on names we might have missed, and name combinations/middle name suggestions, etc.
I look forward to hearing from you! I have truly enjoyed reading your blog posts! I can’t wait to hear what help you have to offer, and to happily report back a final name we settle on!
In some families, the middle name is in everyday usage; but in most families, it’s a special occasion name for birth announcements, discipline, and graduations. Luca Dean gave me a flash of recognition (I don’t know how long it would have taken me to think specifically of Dean and Deluca; it just felt very familiar for a reason I couldn’t put a finger on), but the daily-use name Luca Verbell doesn’t have that issue. Sebastian Cruz may seem like too much, but most people will only hear Sebastian Verbell.
I think I’d like to start by seeing if we can get a handle on your naming style. Rylan and Jaylen are both modern names. Sebastian and Royce feel vintage-revival and gentlemanly. Milan, Jaylen, Remy, Rylan, and Luca are unisex to various degrees. Luca, Milan, Sebastian, and Remy have international flair. Royce is an interesting pick: familiar, and yet quite unusual. I’m not familiar with the name Desmin, and might suggest Desmond unless you have a particular reason for using the unusual variation. It looks to me like for the most part you like suave, not-too-macho, not-too-common names. I see a lot of R and L sounds.
Do you think you’re likely to try for more children after this one? If so, I’d suggest thinking ahead to sibling names, and thinking about how much you’d like them to coordinate. If you’d prefer some coordination, this is a good time to pick between, say, the Jaylen path and the Sebastian path.
Every parent feels differently about unisex names: some people love them, some people avoid them, some people get angry about how our society tends to use “boy names” for girls but not “girl names” for boys. What I like to do is limit the discussion as much as possible to usage facts: not discussing whether names “should” be used for one sex or the other, but only showing how the names are currently used in the United States, and leaving it up to the parents after that. Here is the U.S. usage for 2014:
Luca: 67F, 2291M
Lucca: 40F, 319M
Luka: 16F, 489M
Milan: 424F, 748M
Rylan: 339F, 1726M
Rylen: 43F, 205M
Rylin: 67F, 7M
Rylinn: 228F, 11M
Rylynn: 183F, 8M
Remy: 278F, 424M
Remi: 429F, 88M
Jaylen: 156F, 1082M
Jaylyn: 165F, 36M
Jaylynn: 416F, 17M
(I gave up on Rylan and Jaylen variations: there were just too many, and I hadn’t even started on the Ril- and Jal- spellings yet! To summarize: unisex, used overall more often for boys, but the -lan/-len endings lend themselves to -lyn/-lynn variations.)
For something to go with Milan, I started by saying “Milan ____ Verbell” over and over, with a little pause between, to see if a rhythm would feel right. The first one I thought of was a dah-DAH-dah type of name. Milan Jacoby Verbell. Milan Elijah Verbell. Milan Tobias Verbell. Milan Augustus Verbell.
But then I realized I was saying ver-BELL. If the emphasis is more on the first syllable, I still like Jacoby and the rest of them, but I’d add some basic two-syllable, emphasis-on-the-first-syllable, traditional names: Milan Robert Verbell, Milan Joseph Verbell, Milan Henry Verbell.
With Milan, Rylan, and Jaylen on your list, I wonder if you’d like the name Nolan. It has that suave sound to me. Nolan Verbell.
Or Alan. I’m not sure I’ve mentioned that name in awhile, but it was in our top seven finalists for Henry. I think we’d just watched a documentary with Alan Alda, and I was admiring his calm, friendly personality. Alan Verbell.
Or Lance. That’s got the -lan/-len sound and also the -ce of Royce. Lance Verbell.
Or Bryce. Bryce Verbell.
Or Brooks. Brooks Verbell.
But I feel like these last few are getting a little preppier than what you’re looking for. Maybe more like: