{"id":15888,"date":"2022-06-14T15:27:13","date_gmt":"2022-06-14T19:27:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/?p=15888"},"modified":"2022-06-15T06:56:55","modified_gmt":"2022-06-15T10:56:55","slug":"baby-girl-m-sister-to-lily-an-honor-name-for-a-roberta-bobbi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/2022\/06\/14\/baby-girl-m-sister-to-lily-an-honor-name-for-a-roberta-bobbi\/","title":{"rendered":"Baby Girl M., Sister to Lily; An Honor Name for Roberta\/Bobbi"},"content":{"rendered":"

Swistle,<\/p>\n

A friend of mine made me aware of your \u201cmagic,\u201d after you helped her settle upon a name for two of her three children. So when I was discussing my husband and I struggling with our September due baby girl\u2018s name (sister to Lily Elizabeth), I knew I needed to reach out to you for help!
\nOne of the most important factors in this naming process, is honoring my mom who passed away almost 3 years ago from a rare form of Non Hodgkin\u2019s Lymphoma. This pregnancy is particularly hard with not having her here, as she was our family\u2019s everything. Her first name was Roberta (which she hated!), but she went strictly by Bobbi. Her middle name was Lee, but so is my sister\u2019s, making it a little less of a nod to my mom alone.
\nBobbi, we have found, is a difficult name to work with as a middle name. We like the first names Lucy and Maya, but we aren\u2019t sure if we like the way Lucy Bobbi (a bit too southern sounding) or Maya Bobbi sounds. It\u2019s also important to note our last name begins with \u201cM,\u201d with input from others stating Maya M is too much. A friend suggested a middle name of BobbiLee, to \u201csoften the flow.\u201d
\nIf you can provide any guidance, suggestions etc., it would be more than appreciated to both myself and my husband\u2026 and my mom.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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Opinions will vary widely here, but I will tell you the three–no, four–options I would be considering if I were you:<\/p>\n

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  1. Use the middle name Roberta. I know, your mom hated her name. But if I imagine any sort of afterlife, I don’t imagine the residents having the same concerns they had while alive. It is hard to imagine someone looking down from heaven on a new namesake granddaughter and saying “But I HATED my name!!” No: if anything, it seems like someone who is beyond earthly concerns would be more likely to see only the love and honor behind that name choice.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
  2. \n

    Well, but what if the name Roberta doesn’t feel like Your Mom to you, because she never used it? In that case, I would use the middle name Bobbi. I agree it’s a little tricky to work with (though I think the actress Millie Bobby Brown helps a little); if you just liked it and it wasn’t an honor name, I might suggest choosing something else. But in a situation where using an honor name is one of the most important considerations, I think other considerations (such as rhythm and flow) should bend to accommodate.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

  3. \n

    I like the possible solution of using Bobbi Lee as the middle (I would use them separately rather than mashing them), especially since it has the potential to improve the flow\/rhythm while also increasing the honor.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

  4. \n

    Or, I realize this is a long shot, but if it were me I would be considering using Roberta as the first name and calling her Birdy. It would be “Roberta, after my mom”—but with an everyday nickname just as your mom had an everyday nickname. Lily and Birdy.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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    I think the name Lucy is very similar to the name Lily, and also that the “two syllables ending in -y\/-ie” format is not great with Bobbi, so I would probably let that name bow out in consideration of the honor name. And you’ve said you’re getting feedback that Maya is not great with the surname. So let’s see if we can find more options to consider, and play around with the middle name options to see what sounds good to you. I noticed the name Lily Elizabeth has some repeated sounds, so I included a few choices that lean in to the Bobbi combination with a repeated B and\/or long-E sound.<\/p>\n

    Anna. Anna Roberta. Anna Bobbi. Anna Bobbi Lee. Lily and Anna.<\/p>\n

    Annabel. Annabel Roberta. Annabel Bobbi. Annabel Bobbi Lee. Lily and Annabel.<\/p>\n

    Brielle. Brielle Roberta. Brielle Bobbi. Brielle Bobbi Lee. Lily and Brielle.<\/p>\n

    Camille. Camille Roberta. Camille Bobbi. Camille Bobbi Lee. Lily and Camille.<\/p>\n

    Celeste. Celeste Roberta. Celeste Bobbi. Celeste Bobbi Lee. Lily and Celeste.<\/p>\n

    Cleo. Cleo Roberta. Cleo Bobbi. Cleo Bobbi Lee. Lily and Cleo.<\/p>\n

    Cora. Cora Roberta. Cora Bobbi. Cora Bobbi Lee. Lily and Cora.<\/p>\n

    Delia. Delia Roberta. Delia Bobbi. Delia Bobby Lee. Lily and Delia.<\/p>\n

    Elena. Elena Roberta. Elena Bobbi. Elena Bobby Lee. Lily and Elena.<\/p>\n

    Eva. Eva Roberta. Eva Bobbi. Eva Bobbi Lee. Lily and Eva.<\/p>\n

    Fiona. Fiona Roberta. Fiona Bobbi. Fiona Bobbi Lee. Lily and Fiona.<\/p>\n

    Grace. Grace Roberta. Grace Bobbi. Grace Bobbi Lee. Lily and Grace.<\/p>\n

    June. June Roberta. June Bobbi. June Bobbi Lee. Lily and June.<\/p>\n

    Kay. Kay Roberta. Kay Bobbi. Kay Bobbi Lee. Lily and Kay.<\/p>\n

    Nina. Nina Roberta. Nina Bobbi. Nina Bobbi Lee. Lily and Nina.<\/p>\n

    Noelle. Noelle Roberta. Noelle Bobbi. Noelle Bobbi Lee. Lily and Noelle.<\/p>\n

    Pearl. Pearl Roberta. Pearl Bobbi. Pearl Bobbi Lee. Lily and Pearl.<\/p>\n

    Sabrina. Sabrina Roberta. Sabrina Bobbi. Sabrina Bobbi Lee. Lily and Sabrina.<\/p>\n

    Stella. Stella Roberta. Stella Bobbi. Stella Bobbi Lee. Lily and Stella.<\/p>\n

    Vivian. Vivian Roberta. Vivian Bobbi. Vivian Bobbi Lee. Lily and Vivian.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Swistle, A friend of mine made me aware of your \u201cmagic,\u201d after you helped her settle upon a name for two of her three children. So when I was discussing my husband and I struggling with our September due baby girl\u2018s name (sister to Lily Elizabeth), I knew I needed to reach out to you […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15888","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p3iyiG-48g","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15888","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15888"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15888\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":15895,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15888\/revisions\/15895"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15888"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15888"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15888"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}