{"id":13190,"date":"2018-01-26T10:43:56","date_gmt":"2018-01-26T14:43:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/?p=13190"},"modified":"2020-03-04T18:11:06","modified_gmt":"2020-03-04T22:11:06","slug":"baby-naming-issue-can-two-children-both-have-their-mothers-surname-as-a-middle-name","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/2018\/01\/26\/baby-naming-issue-can-two-children-both-have-their-mothers-surname-as-a-middle-name\/","title":{"rendered":"Baby Naming Issue: Can Two Children Both Have Their Mother’s Surname as a Middle Name?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dear Swistle,<\/p>\n

This is a hypothetical question as there is no baby on the way, but hopefully someday soon. My husband and I have one son. His middle name is my maiden name (which I still go by) and his last name is my husband’s last name. His first name is a name we liked that honors no one. I’ve liked his full name because my name was 1\/3rd of it. But now my question is for our next child. Can he\/she have the same middle name? Is that common or is it weird? I know you advocate for two middle names, which we obviously didn’t do for the first child but I’m considering it for our second. However, I feel like it diminishes the role\/importance of my name. I also kind of wonder if we have a girl does that change things? Is it too masculine sounding to have a last name as a middle name? Part of me is just bummed out that my kids and I have\/will have different last names and there is just no perfect solution.<\/p>\n

I will try to remember to update if the time comes. Thanks for reading, love your blog!<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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Absolutely the next child can have the same middle name, particularly when the reason for doing that in this case is so clear: no one is going to say, \u201cWait, you used your surname as the middle name for…BOTH children???\u201d<\/p>\n

And I don\u2019t think anything changes if the next baby is a girl. Many girls and women have surnames as middle names, and I don\u2019t think the practice has a masculine vibe—particularly since the surname would be her mother\u2019s.<\/p>\n

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Name update:<\/strong><\/p>\n

After two miscarriages, we added a daughter to our family two weeks ago. I would love to share both of my kids’ names, but I’m too much of a private person. I think you all would approve though. I decided to give our daughter my surname as her middle name, the same as her big brother. Swistle’s response and a lot of the comments helped reassure me with my decision, so thank you!<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dear Swistle, This is a hypothetical question as there is no baby on the way, but hopefully someday soon. My husband and I have one son. His middle name is my maiden name (which I still go by) and his last name is my husband’s last name. His first name is a name we liked […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13190","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-name-update"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p3iyiG-3qK","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13190","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13190"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13190\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":14567,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13190\/revisions\/14567"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13190"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13190"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13190"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}