{"id":12241,"date":"2016-07-20T07:49:08","date_gmt":"2016-07-20T11:49:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/?p=12241"},"modified":"2016-08-18T20:59:40","modified_gmt":"2016-08-19T00:59:40","slug":"baby-naming-issue-blake-cooper-or-hudson","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/2016\/07\/20\/baby-naming-issue-blake-cooper-or-hudson\/","title":{"rendered":"Baby Naming Issue: Blake, Cooper, or Hudson?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hi Swistle,
\nReally hoping you can help me out. Baby boy #3 is due in less than 6 weeks (but will most likely be here early). My husband and I have been unable to agree\/decide on a name. Last night, he told me he really wants to get the name settled by this weekend, so we need to make a decision. We have three names- Hudson (his favorite), Blake (my favorite), and Cooper (which we both like, but not enough where either of us want to give up our #1 choice). I’m not including any info on the middle name, our last name, or our boys’ names, because at this point we don’t really care what sounds best with what (all three have their own drawbacks).<\/p>\n

Unless we can come up with some other method, we are going to be picking baby’s name out of a hat. Or using a dartboard. Or some other arbitrary method. My suggestion was letting each of our boys pick a name out of a hat, and then use the remaining name. The idea of a Facebook poll has been discussed.<\/p>\n

We are okay with a random choice. We’ve tried list ranking and ended up with exact opposite lists.<\/p>\n

Any ideas (from you or your readers) would be appreciated.<\/p>\n

Thanks,
\nAllyson<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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Here is my idea: say “no” to your husband’s decision that the name has to be settled by this weekend. It’s thrown everything into a completely unnecessary panic. You guys have approximately six weeks to decide, and it sounds like you need that time. If anything, I’d suggest taking a short break from name discussions if they’re getting stressful: say, no name-talk until AFTER the weekend.<\/p>\n

It also sounds as if you guys are stuck in a “My first choice is his\/her last choice” loop. Sometimes the only way to maximize happiness in this sort of situation is for both top choices to be tossed out. This could result in choosing Cooper, the second choice for both of you. Or this could result in going back to the name book to see if you can find more options to consider.<\/p>\n

Depending on how old your other two sons are, you could decide to make this a family vote—not by having them choose randomly out of a hat, but by asking them which name they like best. A poll of your friends and family might be fun too, as long as they can be trusted not to make negative remarks about the names they didn’t vote for.<\/p>\n

Or you may need to go to the hospital with three names and see which one seems best. Some parents do this on purpose; others avoid it.<\/p>\n

I can put up a poll here, but I’m not sure it’s much help without sibling names or surname. Still, if it would be useful, here it is, with the names listed in alphabetical order:<\/p>\n

[yop_poll id=”70″]<\/p>\n

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Name update:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Hi Swistle,
\nI wanted to update my post-<\/p>\n

We knew we wanted to make a decision soon and not wait until he was born. Also, we didn’t want to start new name choices- we had gone around in circles and always ended up with those three.<\/p>\n

What we ended up doing was writing the three names on index cards, shuffling them, and letting our then 3yo pick. He then handed me the card and without looking, I taped it to the inside of a bakery box (containing a cheesecake). I opened the box and the kiddo read me the letters, and that’s how we all found\u00a0 out what the name was. It was really fun and felt great to have made a decision, plus it was nice to have the kids’ involvement.<\/p>\n

Let me introduce you to Cooper J@cob Chester Cl@rk (double middle names honor his great-grandfathers). Born at 38 weeks, 9lbs13oz, 21.5″ long. Brother to B@rrett and Tucker.<\/p>\n

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Thanks,
\nAllyson<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Hi Swistle, Really hoping you can help me out. Baby boy #3 is due in less than 6 weeks (but will most likely be here early). My husband and I have been unable to agree\/decide on a name. Last night, he told me he really wants to get the name settled by this weekend, so […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12241","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-name-update"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p3iyiG-3br","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12241","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12241"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12241\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12281,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12241\/revisions\/12281"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12241"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12241"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.swistle.com\/babynames\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12241"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}